Becoming a Team

1/22/2011

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When we get married we naturally have a desire to be a team. We want to be on the same side and we chose our partner. It can't get better than that? And when you have children you and your spouse will eventually be the coaches of the family team. You'll have to adjust as your team gets larger, but you make the rules.
When you think about a football team...it's pretty big. You think about the way they play together and how they interact woth one another, on or off the field. The coach has to keep them in line sometimes, and other times they work really well together. They didn't get to pick their teammates, their coach and the assistant coach did. They have to work together and figure things out to win the game. In order for them to win the game they need to listen to the coach's advice, do what they should in their position, and make sure they reach the end zone so they can get a touch down.
If you relate your family to a football team, they come pretty close. The coach (husband/wife) picks his assistant coach (wife/husband) and they then pick who they want to play for them. The teammates (kids) have to work with their siblings even if they don't want to. The kids have to listen to their parents so everything runs smoothly. And at the end of life, we all have the same goal--to get to the end zone (celestial kingdom).
If you want that for your family, then you need to learn how to work with your spouse now. You need to figure out together what rules are in place, what discipline needs to happen if something goes wrong, you need a daily routine, and you need to make sure that you and your spouse have the same goals (short or long term). You can only then start to build on to your family when you have secured that foundation. You and your spouse are a little team and your team members become the team.

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Creating a Climate in the Home

1/15/2011

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"Mothers and Fathers are responsible for the physical and spiritual needs of their children." -The Family: A Proclamation to the World. I believe that Mothers and Fathers should create a climate for their children in their home. They should make it a house of order, love, compassion, gratitude, and respect. Their children should want to spend their time at home and it should be a place of refuge.
I remember growing up in a home where I wanted to be. My mom told me that she felt it was more important to have the home centered around the Savior in a way that she could meet the needs of her children. She didn't feel that having a perfectly clean house was her number one priority. She wanted us to all feel the love that she and our Dad had for us. I commend her for that because that is one of the things I think of first when I remember the home I grew up in. I love that my parents knew the importance for setting a righteous example and keeping the commandments. I remember that they were consistent with Family Home Evening, Family Home Morning (for us little kids), keeping the Sabath Day Holy, and reminding us daily of what was expected of us.
I'm grateful for intelligent parents and for what they have done to set a rightous example. Thank you so much Mom and Dad for raising me in an environment or climate of love and peace!
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The Challenge to Become

1/8/2011

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    Whenever I think of the word "become" I think of my goals. I think of my daily tasks that I did and I evaluate myself at the end of the day. I think of the "to do list" that I have on my mirror in my bed room and how it gets smaller and smaller. I love that I can feel accomplished and that I have done all I wanted to each day. 
    I have many goals like making a journal to go along with a book I want to read and going to the Temple more often. Those are the short term goals, and the long term goals may be harder. The long term ones are financial, future housing, etc. Along with one day making it into the Celestial Kingdom.
     I believe that the last one is the one that is most important to our Heavenly Father. He wants us to do all we can to be obedient to his commandments. He wants us to become like him one day and have what He has. I really do want that, and I think I can obtain it if I stay on track. It really is a challenge, but I think I can do it.
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    Cherise Dahle

    I am 20 and am attending BYU-Idaho. I love my husband Karl very much. My most favorite thing to do is spend time with my huge and wonderful family!

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